What the fuck. That is the immediate thought that pops into my head.
Today after school I was talking to a teacher, writing a college recommendation for me.
She thought things were changing.
Becoming better for Trans people.
This, like many other things, says otherwise.
We are still fighting for respect.
For privacy.
To be able to be ourselves and express ourselves in any way.
The fact that this person can't transition without media scrutiny is blasphemous.
We can't sit there and assume we know what's happening with someone.
That's ignorance.
This could be a great opportunity to show the world to embrace differences.
To sit down with the person and ask them what's going on, when They are ready to speak, and tell their story.
This is fucking disrespectful.
Wow ... That's just WOW, I have nothing else to say
ReplyDeleteI know right?
DeleteAnd like my friend Alexis said earlier today,
the media thrives on exploiting people unfortunately.
People are entertained by this blasphemy.
"Becoming a woman". Like alright -_-
That part really pisses me off.
People at school and outside of school are shocked when I tell them I'm a man.
Because they don't know any other way to make sense of it or aren't familiar with the correct language, they might ask,
"So, you were born a girl and you want to be a boy?"
And I'm like: No my sweet naive friend, I'll say it before and I'll say it again,
I was born a baby.
Then assigned a gender I don't identify with.
Gender is fluid.
And just because someone is expressing themselves a certain way on the outside, "girly", as some people may call it, does not mean they identify as women.
Like me for example :D
I'll continue to reiterate this: Don't assume! Sit down and get to know people, and listen!
Sorry Kimberly, I went off on a tangent, that magazine just frustrated me,
You're a good ally so keep up the good work.
I think you're forgettigg that there's no way he could 'transition' without being in medias eyes. He's famous. No famous persons personal life is private. It comes with the job.
DeleteSo for you to say that he's being objectified because of this is kind of hypocritical to me. I think, and I mean this is no way, that your problem is that you immediately see the darkness in the cover. Whereas I, and probably most people, see it as useless gossip.
Also with the problem with people at school, especially for me, is that we don't understand. I personally don't understand how it works, that probs sounds soooo wrong but I dont. And that's me being honest. I have tried to understand and to this day I really can't. It has nothing to do with being accepting or not.
Sorry for the rant, but I feel like you're misunderstanding people who genuinely don't get it. Probably sounds wrong, but it's how I feel.
Hi! Morning!
DeleteYou're right, that's very true, famous people are in the media all the time.
Its just how it is, I should know that.
I don't think hypocritical is the right word though...perhaps a paradox could best suit your argument.
I just can't help but see the sad side of the cover and connect, because, and I don't know if its true or not, but if this person is Transgender, I just would want them to have the same freedom coming out and expressing themselves in whatever way, and if/when, they decide, like me.
But you're right, that magazine is trash anyway.
I completely get that, when I was first exposed to the Trans community/Trans people, I was like, what?
It doesn't sound wrong at all,
I kinda compare my teaching people about the LGBTQ+ community and people not understanding to me taking math for 12 years and not understanding,
Never have,
Never will haha :)
I mean I feel like... it has everything to do with being accepting.
I feel like even if you don't understand,
If you just call me by the right name (Kyle) and pronouns (He, him, and his)
That's accepting.
You're just taking me as I am, a man.
You can ask me questions, maybe I can make it easier for you to understand.
Or if you're okay with the info you got, that's cool too, I don't want to force you, or anyone to learn something new.
The thing is, I've been where all of you are.
Just. Not. Getting. It.
I try to explain it the best I can,
And be patient, because I know that not everyone is gonna sit there and get my name right and call me a guy right off the bat,
And its not cool to expect that of any of y'all.
Everybody is learning.
I think its rad that people are trying to take steps to understand me.
I might get frustrated sometimes,
Because this is who I am,
You know?
It does get tiring time after time, correcting people.
Sometimes I give up, because it isn't worth it,
Some people won't get it, that's fine.
I'm learning to choose my battles wisely.
I understand people will get confused,
The way we were raised, or you know what, lemme not speak for all of you.
At least the way I was raised, the fact that Transgender people existed, wasn't even a thought in my head.
I was taught a specific set of rules, its hard to break that down after so many years of having it pounded into our heads.
You don't have to apologize,
I love stimulating conversation in the morning :)
Have a righteous day!
I get you 100% and you're right.
DeleteI think we're all trying out best. Sometimes I trip up with the pronouns but all in all, I forgot even your actual name.
I think it's gonna take us awhile because of not understanding. That's the biggest problem I see. You can't 100% accept until you get it, YA know?
I'm glad you're cool about asking questions. It's just hard to phrase without coming off as super ignorant and super rude.
Thnx for understanding tho
Have a good day :)
Sorry it took me so long to respond,
DeleteI don't feel very well :/
I don't know if everyone is trying their best, but I'm sure you are :)
Oh, I wouldn't refer to my birth name as my "actual name", because that implies my chosen name is less valid, does that make sense?
Kyle is my actual name.
I guess we see acceptance differently then.
I feel like, I'll accept someone as they are, even if I don't entirely understand,
But do whatever it takes to make sure I understand eventually.
To make sure they feel safe and loved, that's my goal in life,
To help as many people as I can feel safe and loved and accepted just as they are :)
I know that struggle haha :)
You could ask me questions in person, and maybe I'll help you rephrase it so its not offensive, and then I'll answer!
:D