Featured this week: Janaya :D

Hello my little Love Muffins!

How is everyone's weekend going?

Tomorrow is the first day of February, this month is going to be super rad, I can feel it. There's going to be a bunch of opportunities for y'all, I'll give the info out soon :)

I met this weeks featured friend at last years Hispanic Black Gay Coalition Youth Conference. 

I sat down at her table for lunch and she talked to me first, 

Super confident and Friendly. 

She's open about her life, has no shame, and stands up for what she believes in!

This is my friend Janaya. 

(All this info she gave me word for word)

Name: Janaya

Pronouns: She, her, hers

School: I'm currently on break, but MIT.

Likes: sex jk don't put that, my education, biology, chemistry, medicine, poetry, soccer, my gf, my friends

Dislikes: anti-feminism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, racism, all the non-progressive things, physics

About me:

I'm a pansexual premed who wants to study cancer as an MD/PhD.

I am in an open relationship with a wonderfully, beautiful girl.

I enjoy writing about social justice in poetic form.

I have a love of carbs and sweets!

Boston is my home and I couldn't imagine living anywhere else.

I want to travel and see the world, hopefully with a beautiful companion by my side.

All in all I'm just an intelligent and ambitious 19 year old girl who wants to experience new and exciting things and enjoy life.

Featured this week: Kayla :D

Hey Folx, 

Hope you're having a really righteous long weekend!

As you know, this week has been super duper stressful for me, 

But I'm going to try to get back on track with the original purpose of this blog, 

Which is to educate.

There will still be stuff about me though :)

Yesterday someone told me they wanted to know about LGBTQ+ history and more current events going on in the community. 

Any suggestions for what y'all want to know about?

Moving on to this weeks Featured Friend!

She's this super awesome gal I met this past fall.

She can be really shy with new people, 

but she's really sweet, and vulnerable, and funny once she gets comfortable.

She has really good taste in music, and her spoken words about heartbreak make my jaw drop in awe.

I love her and I hope I get to hang out with her soon.

Heeeeere's Kayla!

(All of this info she gave me word for word)

Name: Kayla

Pronouns: She/Her/Hers

School: Revere High School

Likes: Arctic Monkeys, creative writing, poetry, true crime novels (serial killers), YA fiction,  queer as folk, the L word, Queer eye for the straight guy, vinyl records, and concerts/festivals

Dislikes: my school, summer, cats, overly priced things, splat hair dye, judgmental people, homophobes,  and probably other things I can't think of.

About me: So hi I'm Kayla, I'm a junior in high school, and I'm queer. Well specifically I'm Pansexual but it's easier and less troubling to explain to my family what queer than pansexual, you know? Umm I always liked talking about lgbtq+ issues and topics because it's such a big part of my life, and going to things like pride make it so much easier to understand and respect yourself. Like for me the hardest part was saying 'this is okay for others and it's okay for me too' Anyway umm I'm never really good at these things, so why don't I just tell you what I'm doing. At my school, and many others, there's a lack of representation and learning about Lgbtq+ so what I want to do is get schools to pass a program that will teach kids about gender and their sexuality so eventually there won't be any discrimination or prejudice against lgbtq+ kids. It's important everyone feels welcome and comfortable at school because that's where we spend most of our time, and if you feel uncomfortable or unwelcome how can you learn? You know? Life as a kid is already hard enough you don't need to add all of this homophobic or bullying shit to your life! You know? Like I didn't even accept myself till a few years ago because I thought my sexuality wasn't valid, and I just want other kids to be comfortable in their own skin. Because everyone deserves that! And I'm not sure if I should add this or if it's needed but my Tumblr is arcticmnkeysofficial, and I'll soon be posting two surveys that address genders/sexualities, one will be for students and one will be for parents/teachers. So it's been wonderful talking to you all, have a rad day✌️

And the shit has hit the fan.

So last night my mom found out I'm Trans.

It was like something out of a TV show, I'm telling you y'all. 

Seventh period yesterday, I was telling my guidance counselor how I won't tell my mom about myself and how its my business and I figured I had to tell her about my name change, just in case she wanted to mention me on legal forms or whatever, 

But even then, I wouldn't have told her for a while.

I was so happy when I saw this:

That's right!

They changed my name and gender in the school system,

Now to fix the middle name, haha.

Nothing could've gotten me down.

But about an hour later, 

My mom calls.

The story is, she was registering my little sister, Val, for elementary school.

And when you register one child for school, you have to list the other kids you have that are students in BPS.
And that took forever
Because she was looking under my birthname.
But that person doesn't exist
Like I said before, I changed my name and gender in the school system.

She was fucking pissed.
She screamed so hard.

Telling me I'm gonna have to change my name in the system back to my birthname.
Threatening me.

Calling me stupid.

Calling me "crazy". 

Telling me she's going to put me in the hospital so I can get help.

I can't stay there anymore.

For my mental health.

I can't.

So I'm packing my shit and leaving tomorrow.

Wish me luck friends!

Be yourselves, stay awesome.

Love.

Ps. This isn't my last post, stay tuned for more friends, fun, and updates about me and my life :)

January 9th or nahhhh

A couple weeks ago I wrote on my blog that today would be the day I come out to my mom.

After careful consideration, lots of thought, getting opinions from other people, 

I came to the decision that I probably won't come out to my mom, ever.

Not right now, because that's not safe for me right now, I don't feel I would have a stable enough plan if I got kicked out,

and I have other shit going on right now like applying to college.

And not ever because, she doesn't matter.

Lol that probably sounds terrible, huh?

The thing is my friends, I know how she'll react.

And I don't need that negative bullshit in my life, ya feel?

I have a support system of people who love me and care about me.

Personally, I don't feel I need my mom's "acceptance" or "approval" to feel whole or complete or whatever.

I don't need her in my life, 

She's kinda toxic. 

I honestly don't care if we don't have a relationship.

Besides, my little brother knows and he's really fucking awesome and super protective.

And I'm going to raise my little sister to celebrate and embrace differences and she can take that learning any way she will, I won't force my beliefs on her if she isn't down with that.

Listen y'all,

If you are gonna come out, or not, 

Think long and hard about it.

Do what's right for you!

Its up to you at the end of the day. 

Remember, I'll be here to support you no matter what!

Love.

To those of y'all having a bad day, 

Or a good day,

I'm sending positive vibes your way.

I'm here for you, 

Whatever you need:

Someone to listen to what you have to say, 

Advice,

Help with something 

Or anything else, 

I'm Here For You.

Love.

I'm sending love your way too.

Know that you are important, 

You are special, 

And that you matter.

You matter to me and others.

I'm proud of you, 

You woke up and got through another day.

I'm thankful for you.

That you exist.

Love.

Featured this week: Danny :D

Sorry, sorry, sorry I'm late this week y'all,

My computer has been trash, but not to worry, you get to meet a new friend now!

Danny. How do I describe him?

Hmmm.

Not only is he super cute but he's talented. 

For those of you who went to my show, you know Danny can sing and act.

When he sings he warms my heart, I get fucking emotional.

Danny can come off a little distant at first, but he's a total sweetheart.

He picks me up when I feel down. He gives the best hugs.

He's funny, and his facial expressions are on point.

So my pretty babies, Here's Danny!

(All of this info he sent me word for word)

Name: Danny

Pronouns: He, Him, His

School: Lynn English High, grad.2012

Likes: boys, broadway, disney movies, cats.

Dislikes: middle aged white men, seafood,  sports.

About me: im 20 years old, i grew up in lynn, ma. I came out as gay when i was 16, it wasnt easy but im glad i did it early rather than later. I love everything theatrical; singing, dancing, acting. Im hoping to make a career out it someday.