Saturday, August 22, 2015

The Femme Show: 9 Lives on October 16 & 17, 2015

Hello Beautiful People!

On this lovely Saturday morning I'd like to inform you of another fun opportunity coming up this fall:

The Femme Show: 9 Lives!

You're probably thinking to yourself,
 "Femme show...Femme show, sounds familiar but Kyle, why don't you remind me what that is"

Sure thing Friend!

The Femme Show is:

"The Femme Show is a Boston, MA  based group of queer performers who bring deep, personal explorations of queer and subversive femininity and fem/femme identity to the stage in a fun, eclectic variety show.  This is queer art for queer people: challenging, introspective, brazen, funny, sexy, and gritty but always powerful."

-- The Femme Show Website (http://www.thefemmeshow.com/about/)

Now you're saying, "Kyle, that sounds like a really copacetic show, I'd like to attend. 
But wait, what the heck is a femme?"

Another good question!

In the same way there's no one way to define our communities, identities, or labels because they're up to an individual to decide that for themselves, there's no way singular way to define the Femme identity, 

However, I can give a sort of brief description based on other folx interpretation of what femme means to them, and hopefully you can get an idea that way. 

Is that okay??

1. "Not that anyone can ever be an authority on identity, but Bevin’s run down of what femme means to her is one of the most passionate and poignant descriptions I’ve ever read.  For your enjoyment:
“Femme is a way of defining for me how I fit into my sexuality, but does not describe my gender.
Femme means my feminism and my femininity walk hand in hand.
Femme means I look how I want to look and not how someone tells me I should look to be perceived as queer. You’ll know I’m queer within about 20 seconds of talking to me.
Femme means I look how I want to look and not how someone tells me I should look because I am a woman. I am often far overdressed for everything I do, but when I look in the mirror and smile because I’m wearing a glittery necklace, feathers in my hair, lots of cleavage, that’s what matters."
--http://genderqueer.tumblr.com/post/858591037/what-is-femme

2." Femme to me: (which means only me, Emma, and not a general femme definition because femme in and of itself defies traditional labels of definition)
To me, being femme is about taking strength from femininity.  My femininity is expressed through cupcake dresses, glitter boots, big hair, and pink nails.  It is communicated through laughing eyes, sideways smiles, laughing too hard, and breaking hearts.
I am femme because it is who I am.  I feel most beautiful when I am seen as queer.  Queer and femme are not able to be seperated in my identity.  They are the same.
It is also a political act.  I am femme because I am told I shouldn’t be. I am femme when it is difficult, erasing, and impossible.  I am femme when no sees me as femme.  Being femme is the most radical thing about me.  Femme is home.
This is just what it means to me.  It means something very different to my fellow femme sisters, brothers, friends.  Everyone defines their home differently.
Mine just happens to be dressed up in gold glitter taffeta."

--http://femmadilemma.tumblr.com/whatfemmemeanstome

Femme can be this:



Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this:



Or this:




Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this:


Or this: 


Or this:



But being/identifying as femme, isn't just a style
Its a way of life.
To free yourself and be yourself through this type of expression. Anyone can be femme. 
It is a self determined label. 
You can't just assume someone is femme, they need to proclaim it for themselves if they choose to do so.
Femme Does Not mean you are a woman necessarily.
Your femme does not have to be anything like the pictures above. 
It can look like one or a couple of the pictures above. 
It can be all of the pictures above.
Femme comes in all different shapes, shades, and sizes.
To be femme means
To break free from the norms that say masculine is best. 
 I found myself when I realized that I am femme. 
I stopped pretending to be someone I wasn't, and I became so much happier. 
It is a brave act to be yourself. 

Does that kind of clear things up?

So, back to the femme show. 

Its a really fabulous show, I went for the first time last year. 

There was burlesque and spoken word and story telling. 

It was a darn good time so you know what?

You should come, here's the info:


Hope to see you there!!! ;D

Thursday, August 20, 2015

Featured This Week: Dede!!! :D

Good Evening my Amigxs,

Well its not really evening anymore...
Whatever, you get the jist

This weeks featured friend:

I met him last summer at True Colors, where I used to work.
I've been getting closer and closer to him, I love him so much.
He's the best brother anyone could ask for.
He always makes me laugh and he never judges me, he's not a judgmental person.
And he's willing to learn, he's grown so much.
He's one of my best friends.

So, without further ado,

Here's Dede!!!

(All this info he gave me word for word)


Name: Derianna DiRico aka Dede

Pronouns: She & Her, He & Him

School: Lynn Classical High


Likes: Photography, Minecraft, YouTube & Film Making


Dislikes: Rude & Ignorant people


About Me: They call me Dede, I'm 17 years young. I like to think of myself as creative, funny & adventurous. I identify as a lesbian. I love my frien
ds and family.

Black Lives Matter Cambridge Presents: Black LGBTQIA + People Speakout- Real Talk 2

Are y'all free this Sunday and a person of color? 

Well then, join me at:

It's free, its on Sunday, and its a place to take about the intersections of our identities!

If you wanna meet up with me and my homies email me at

kylediaz35@gmail.com,

and You can go to the BLM Cambridge Facebook page for more info!

Sunday, August 9, 2015

"OH SHIT!" Moments

An Oh Shit Moment is defined as, 

"The moment or moments,  you realize or come to terms with the fact that you might be queer, gay, or in anyway part of the LGBTQQIA+ community."

--My friend Stevie


A couple of my friends and I were at the beach the other day, sitting in the sand, and my Stevie asks, 

"Hey, what are y'alls 'OH SHIT' moments?"

Of course all of us burst out laughing, but we knew we had to share our oh shit moments. 

The moments we knew we were a little different. 
That we were special. 
Maybe moments that scared us.
 That excited us. 
Moments that we look back on and see how much we've grown and changed.

Anyways, 

Here's a couple of OH SHIT moments for you :)

(All of these moments have been brought to you, word to word from the source)


Hey there I'm Asher!
 I use he/him or they/them pronouns. 
I'm panromantic, agender, asexual and a whole lotta fabulous!
Soooo I have a few oh shit moments but I'm just going to focus one one. My first ever oh shit moment and the start of my journey into queerdom was in third grade. My best friend and I had this thing called talk time where we would go to the be during class and chill. So one day we're in the bathroom and I tell her that I have a crush on someone (a third grade crush, pretty serious stuff y'all). Of course being 3rd grade me I wouldn't say it out loud, because it was her! She goes through a list of names and finally says "wait... Do you have a crush on me?!" I didn't even say yes I just awkwardly giggled and nodded. So long story short I ended up having my first queer relationship in 3rd grade with my best friend. Adorable right? I know, I do that well.



Name: Elliot Gray Boodhan
Pronouns: He/Him/His and They/Them/Theirs
Identification: Asexual&Panromantic
Transmasculine/Genderqueer
Oh Shit Moment: When I was in kindergarden I remember always hating my name. I was never into the things that society said I was supposed to be into as a "girl" either. In fact, I considered myself a tomboy because of the things I liked being things that boys my age liked. My eldest sister once heard me say I was a tomboy, and laughed at me and said "No you aren't. You don't even know what a tomboy really is." This statement confused me until I was 10. I was at an age where I was flooding my brain with the cultures and languages of so many other countries. I was particularly interested in Thai culture, so I'd been learning the language and slang. I was watching an LGBT themed movie from Thailand, and one of the characters was called a "Tom". Off to the side of the screen was the word "Tom*" and what it meant. It was short for tomboy. The meaning of the word tomboy orignially was a female born person who's gender didn't conform to their sex assigned at birth, and it was noted that they typically had female lovers. The moment I read that I understood what my sister had meant, and I realized that it fit me. Knowing the definition made me realize that everything I had been feeling about my name and, after hitting puberty at age 7, my body was because I wasn't identifying as female. I was kinda just like, "Well shit, it all makes sense now."



Name:Kayla
Pronouns: they/them
Identity: gender queer/pansexual
Oh shit moment:
I was always subconsciously attracted to my best friend from when I was three. But this one time we were a little older, between 7-12, and we were swimming in her pool. I noticed that I was focusing more on her in her bathing suit than I was on swimming, and at some point my bikini top had come undone. So I asked her to help me tie again. And when she was tying it she'd accidentally brushed against my chest and I got the weirdest shiver, and I couldn't get rid of the feeling till she moved away from me. And that's when I was like "holy shit I like when girls touch me. That's definitely not straight."



Name: Kimberly
Pronouns: she/hers they/them
School: Snowden high school
Identity: Pansexual
Oh shit moment:
One oh shit moment is when I found myself staring at my brothers girlfriends boobs they looked so nice 😍😍😍


This next friend is from California :D


Name: Elsa Sandbach
Pronouns:She/Her
School: Santa Catalina School
Identification: Lesbian
Oh Shit Moment: There was a girl in my class who used to come into my room (I go to boarding school) initially to talk to my roommate and eventually to discuss her problems with me. She spent most of the days she was in my room talking about questioning her sexuality and how maybe she was bisexual. Up until this point I hadn’t even considered bisexuality as an option. Eventually I began to realize that, wow I have a big-ass crush on this girl I’m probably less than entirely heterosexual… And I sat myself down and emailed my parents, “I think I’m bisexual.” And about a week later, “I’m definitely a lesbian.”


My oh shit moment was really more specifically when she got in my bed and snuggled with me one day and I kind of lay there like holy fuck I want to kiss her. Which scared me but eventually I did and it worked out nicely.




Name: Kiana Solivera
Pronouns: She, They
Identification: Bisexual
(Names of other people in the story will be change)
 One Of my 'OH SHIT!' moments was when i was younger and would get home after hanging out with a group of friend my cousins would tease me about Justin being  my boyfriend....my response one day was "I like him but i would perfer Jenna to be my girlfriend."


 Name: Katraya Wier
Pronouns: She
School: AMDA NY
Identity: Pansexual/Agender
Oh shit moment : 
Sexuality- I was in 3rd grade and my two girls were walking in front of me and I started checking them out and one of them noticed and turned around and was like "are you a lesbian" and I was like "what does that mean" and she said "it means you wanna kiss girls" and I was like "oh, um I don't know" but in my head I was like 'there's a name for that?!'
Gender- Okay so my Senior year of High school I took journalism and I wrote a bunch of articles about feminism and the stereotypes around femininity and masculinity and the more I tried to discover what masculine and feminine meant outside of societal BS the more I realized I that I didn't identify with either




And here is a special surprise, its me :D



Name: Kyle or Ky
Pronouns: He/him, They/them, Xe/xem, Feel free to mix it up!
School: Lesley University
Identity: Queer as fuck. But if you really wanna know the specifics:
Transgender
Panromantic and Pansexual
Polyamorous as fuck.
Gender Fluid or Non Binary maybe?? Gender fluid for sure.
Oh shit Moment:
One of my oh shit moments is when I kissed my best friend when I was five. She was my first kiss. 
Her name was Carol. 
You rock Carol.

5th Annual Hispanic Black Gay Coalition Youth Empowerment Conference!!!

Hey Y'all!

As you might already know, school is starting back up pretty soon. 
Ugh, I know. 

But, not to fret, because at the same time school will be back in session, 
the 5th annual Hispanic Black Gay Coalition Youth Empowerment Conference will be taking place!

You may be asking, "Kyle, now, what is the Hispanic Black Gay Coalition Youth Empowerment Conference?"

Good question Friend! 

Just in case you aren't familiar with the organization, 
let me first tell you about the Hispanic Black Gay Coalition, 

An excerpt from their website:

"Hispanic Black Gay Coalition (HBGC) is one of few non-profit organizations in Boston dedicated to the unique and complex needs of the Black, Hispanic and Latin@ LGBTQ community. Founded in 2009, we work to inspire and empower Latin@, Hispanic and Black LGBTQ individuals to improve their livelihood through activism, education, community outreach, and counseling.

Hispanic Black Gay Coalition (HBGC) es una Organización en Boston dedicada a servir y unir a la comunidad LGBTQ Afro Americana y Latina. Trabajamos para inspirar y fortalecer individuos de la comunidad, LGBTQ Afro Americana y Latinos, para mejorar sus vidas a través del activismo, educación, y consejeria."

Copacetic, right?!

Okay, now to tell you about the youth empowerment conference, 

"HBGC's Annual Youth Empowerment Conference is a FREE space for LGBTQ Youth of Color to connect with one another, share resources, and gain useful skills for navigating life and creating social change. It is currently the largest conference gathering of LGBTQ youth of color and their allies in New England! 

This year is our 5th year of holding the conference and we are excited that it continues to grow in size and in diversity of topics and attendees. 

At The Conference Expect To:

  • Be inspired by our keynote speakers
  • Select from over 30 workshops exploring LGBTQ issues and their intersections with race, gender, class, ability and religion 
  • Gain useful tips and skills for advocating for LGBTQ equality and social justice while connecting with existing campaigns
  • Enjoy live entertainment from QTPOC performers & artists
  • Learn about LGBTQ and youth resources, including internship and employment opportunities, at our resource fair
  • Network with over 200 LGBTQ people of color from across the country"

    Are you interested? Good!
    Go to the official HBGC Youth Empowerment Conference 2015 website now, and register!

    *Conference website: http://www.hbgc-ourtimenow.org/
    *Conference facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/HBGCYouth2015


Friday, July 10, 2015

Featured This Week: Stevie!!! :D

Hello Everyone :)

I know I haven't made a post in a while but I guess I just haven't been motivated, 
emotionally I've been sort of all over the place. 

But, I want to continue this blog, 
It makes me happy to write, even if not many people read it. 
Its kinda therapeutic. 

Anyways, 
Its time for an overdue Friend of the Week.

I've known this friend since Summer 2014, 
(I don't know why I capitalized Summer but it felt right)
We have stayed in touch all throughout the school year, even if we didn't get to hang out much. 
She is one of my closest friends, 
A hard worker, good listener, a dope spoken word artist
(For real, you have to hear her, she's amazing). 


Here's Stevie!!!

(All this info she gave me word for word)



Name: Stevelyn Desire
(But call me Stevie)

Pronouns: she, her, hers

School: John D. O'Bryant School of Mathematics and Science

Likes: compassion, empathy, openness, communication, poetry, music, food, movies, clothes, confidence, Netflix, competition, healthy relationships, my friends are my world, love

Dislikes: People who don't respect other's boundaries, homophobia, rain, hypocrites, discrimination, violence.

About me: Hey gorgeous people, I'm Stevie! My orientation is a little complicated but I guess it can be described as being a lesbian/multisexual and bi-romantic, I hope that makes sense!  a little background to this is that it took me FOREVER to actually come to terms with who I am. There was a time when I would cry everyday because I didn't understand myself and my feelings. I would ask God why I couldn't just be normal. Coming from a christian family I believed that this was wrong. But in my struggle to figure myself out I found True Colors out Youth Theater, which not only helped me feel confident in who I am but taught me that its okay to be me and there is no such thing as being normal. And an added bonus is that I found my family, they are seriously the most amazing people I have ever met! If anything i would pass along the same message True Colors has taught me, To accept and love yourself and others. By the way,  I'm 17 years old (18 in September!!!) Poetry is a huge part of my life, and so are my friends, they inspire me and I really don't know what I would do without them. I believe that confidence is key in getting anywhere in life, if you love yourself others will follow suit. I'm a really boring person so I don't know what to write. Um, my favorite color is purple. Shoes and clothes are life, oh natural beauty is hot, I'm a math geek and super competitive, feminist, activist, food and music lover!!!. I've been told I'm sarcastic (whatever that means...) I think I'm a nice person. I try to be the light in anyone's darkness. We need to be kind to one another in such a messed up world. I try to have an open mind at all times and I wish the same for society. That's me in a snapshot so, stay beautiful guys!!

Thursday, May 28, 2015

True Colors Out Youth Theater: Community Performances!!!



Y'all!

So you know how since I started this blog I always seem to sneak a little something in about 
my acting troupe True Colors?
Well now is your chance to see what the heck I'm talking about!

In case you don't know,
True Colors is a theater program/troupe for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Questioning+ youth & their allies, ages 14-22.

We write, produce, and perform our own show that incorporate our personal stories and educate people through our experiences as LGBTQ+ youth.
This troupe our musical, "Louder than Words", is focused on the theme of dreams.
 Several things we cover in this show are: racism, body image, police brutality, and more!

Is this sounding good to you?

You might be asking,
"Kyle, how can I see the righteous musical 'Louder than Words?'"

What a fabulous pregunta friend!

I'm here to tell you that there are two free community performances you can attend:

Show 1: Friday May 29 @ 7pm  
Hibernian Hall, 184 Dudley Street, Roxbury 

Show 2: Saturday May 30 @ 7pm  
Hibernian Hall, 184 Dudley Street, Roxbury
Please RSVP to 

I hope to see y'all there!

And remember, Dreams are Possible! :)